Forgiveness: an open letter to Prof. Christine Blassey Ford, Ph.D.
First, I want to apologize for the recent events that have obviously been stressful on you, your husband and sons. When you gave an anonymous lead to your state representative a couple of months ago, you hoped to remain anonymous and relied on your elected representatives to do their job of investigating your allegations. It is truly sad that instead of using your concerns as intended, the letter was secreted for weeks and then used for political purposes rather than your purpose of advancing justice.
The bits and pieces of information leaking from your legal team and politicians exacerbate rather than assuage the situation. The only fact that seems indisputable is that what happened was almost four decades ago without repetition.
History gives us a litany of luminaries, men and women, who have transgressed in their formative years and have grown into respected leaders. The thread of the fabric in each of these cases has been “forgiveness.”
One of your peers, Professor Robert Enright, PhD, of the University of Wisconsin-Madison suggests a wronged person for their own benefit should say: “I will not be defined by the injustices against me. I am more than this. I am someone who endures pain and is a conduit for good to others.” The Mayo Clinic found that forgiveness has benefits of healthier relationships and even healthier blood pressure.
This seems to have been your mantra until recently. Despite the incident in your past, you have thrived. You have unloaded the mantle of victim and have achieved decades as a survivor. You did what you thought was your duty. You should be applauded, not denigrated nor used for political purposes.
“The Great Soul” Mahatma Gandhi wrote: “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
Reflect on the past decades. Seems timely to forgive.
Eskil S. Danielson, MA